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THE HOUSEHOLD-"Supplement.

 

 

THAT LITTLE PRAYER.

 

The ﬁre upon the hearth is low.
And there is stillness everywhere;
Like troubled spirits here and there
The ﬁreligbt shadows ﬂuttering go.
And as the shadows round me creep.
A childish treble breaks the gloom,
And softly from a further room
Comes: “Now I lay me down to sleep."

And. somehow. with that little prayer
And that sweet treble in my ears,
My thoughts go back to distant years,
And linger with a dear one there;
And as I h or the child‘s amen.
My mother‘s faith comes back to me—
Crouched at her side I seem to be.
And mother holds my hand again.

Oh, for an hour in that dear place!
Oh, for the peace of that dear time!
Oh. for that childish trust sublime!

Oh, for a glimpse of mother’s face!

Yet, as the shadows round me creepI
I do not seem to be alone-

Bweet magic of that trembling tone

And. “Now I lay me down to sleep!"

 

—-----—~—~O.

When he was youth and she was maid
Full oft would he declare

He loved to see her charms displayed
In setting rich and rare.

The costliest lace. the gayest plume,
The quaintest broidered stuﬁ.

The choicest fabric of the loom
Was hardly choice enough.

Years pass. and Angelina‘s life
With Edwin‘s now is blent.
And-he a husband. she a wife—
His tastes are diﬁerent.
Simplicity. he saYs. is best—
Away with vnlgsr show!
She shines the fairest when she‘s dressed
In eight cent calico.
————-.O.-—--——

A SUMMERS EXPERIENCES.

 

After enjoying the lake breezes at
Bay View for most of the season we are
again anchored at home and the home
and society cares must be resumed, but
the common every day harness can be
adjusted so much easier after the plea-
sant change that many lives never know.

After two weeks spent among the
wonders and delights of the White City
until body and brain were too weary to .

 

employed during the four weeks of this
Assembly, beside giving several beneﬁt
entertainments. We had such singers
as Mrs. Gznevra J ohnstone-Bishop, of
Chicago, the Lotus Gee Club, of Bos-
ton, and also the Boston Stars; such
grand orators as D. Crawford, Rev.
McIntyre, of Denver, and Hon. John
Temple Graves, of Atlanta, with such
an earnest advocate of purity for the
youth as Anthony Cnnstock, of New
York; and there were able, earnest
ministers and the long list of teachers
and those who entertained, with ﬁne
stereopticon and impressive beach ser-
vices, the gleanings from the W. C. T.
U. School of Methods and the Woman’s
Council. and oh the many, many good
things that we saw and heard!

We incidentally remarked that we
went to Chicago to use our eyes and to
Bay View to use our ears when some
one facetiously asked where we were
going to use our mouths and we said:
"Right here at home,” but of a truth
the half cannot be told however busy
our tongues mav be.

Now comes the annual school meet-
ing and “we ladies are going to vote.”
Not that we expect our work will tell in
any noticeable way at ﬁrst. Let us step
in quietly with no attempt at making
our presence felt, and learn what we
ought to do and what we desire to do
before any radical steps are taken, if
ever. There will doubtless be many
women who in voting on municipal and
school matters will try to overturn all
established customs and revolutionize
matters, but it seems quite unwise.
Failure lies in the path of those who,
in comparative ignorance, attempt what
they cannot carry out. I believe it is
our dutv to accept and use carefully and
prayerfully every right conceded. Prove
that we want and appreciate these pri-
vileges by using but not abusing them.
So let us do that more may be added.

Many men are dreading this innovation «

duty in that line and I shall do, for what
I now believe to be the general good,
what I, personally, would not care to do.

One of my trials is that in this place
it is an established custom for the band
to give an open air concert On every
Saturday evening and Main street is the
scene of a grand promenade for men
and women, youth and maiden, children
of all ages on foot and in cabs, and oh
the justle and jargon and the vile odors
that ﬁll the air of tobacco and beer and
the loathsome cigarette! The stores
and saloons are a blaz : of light and high
carnival prevails. To me it seems that
these misses are contaminated by all
that they see and hear until the delicate
bloom from the fruit is gone; their
maidenly purity is not left unsullied. It
must, :of necessity, make young girls
more bold and ﬂippant of speech, more

 

ready to meet and associate with straw
:gers and those of doubtful character.
1 Even those of such tender age as eight
or ten years scorn a chaperone and
must go with their chums, and for hours
the parade goes on. I am laughed at
and called “notional” because I cannot
approve of this publicity, where all
classes meet on a common level and
jostle along or stand in loudstalking
groups under every awning with only
the ﬁtful light of the street lamps that
leave many dark mischief-hatching
corners. If it is bad for young girls
what is it for the boys? Many a ﬁrst
cigarette might be traced to these alley
vigils, and oh! the slang and oaths, the
petty thieving and deeds of evil that
are the natural result of these evenings
on the street! I said all classes meet
there and in a sense it is true; but the
better class of ladies are seldom seen
and some men prefer a newspaper at
,home, yet that apparently does not
lessen the surging crowd. I may be a
“fogy” with ideas away behind the
times, but it will be long before my
education can tolerate such things as

 

care for more, even though all be world and fearing that a few foolish ofﬁce .thcse.

has contributed to the beauty andi
grandeur of that center of attraction,
we hied away to the bracing air and‘i
the many educational advantages of:
Bay View.

It is reported that other resorts are , of studious and painstaking prepara-

suﬂering nota little from lack of at-

seeking women will be the only ones to
respond, so let us take up this duty as
one that is life-long; and not make haste

to carry any pet project until the proper ,

harvest time comes after a seed-sowing

As the season of cooler weather draws

' nigh the rheumatism begins to tighten
: its grasp and i wonder if all the victims
know of the relief to be obtained by the
i slapping process. When one cannot lie

i or sit in any position in comfort, 8 (1 men

tion. I have repeatedly said that I had ; or twenty sharp blows with the flat
tendance,but we are proud to state that ' all the rights that I wanted and there- ‘ hand will Often give relief. Don’t think
the Bay View managers paid one hun- fore had no desire to vote; but while at ‘ you can treat a sore hip or shoulder in

dred cents on the dollar for all talent _' Bay View my eyes were Opened to my , that way without pain, for it is heroic


 
 

 

 

INTENTIONAL SECOND EXPOSURE

 

 

 

having. been pared, stoned and weighs
ed, are placed in a hereunto—lined

kittieand heated slowly,” as toe;-
trsct all the juice possible. It, is

necessary to stir them often from the

bottom, and for this use a wooden
spoon is best—never use an iron spoon.

Increase the heat gradually till the

juice comes to a boil, which is allowed
to continue for forty-live minutes,
stirring frequently during the time.
The sugar is then added, allowing
twelve ounces for each pound of fruit,
and the whole is boiled for ﬁve minutes,
all of the scum which rises being care-
fully removed. Then add the juice of
a lemon for each three pounds of
peaches, and the water in which a
quarter part of the kernels have been
treated as described for preserved
peaches. The whole is then to be
stewed for ten minutes more, being
stirred meantime till it becomes a
smooth paste, when it is taken from
the ﬁre and put into jars or tumblers,
being covered when cold with brandied
paper.

PICKLED PEACHES, PARED.—Select
ripe, perlect fruit, weigh after paring,
and for each ten pounds of peaches
take a quart of vinegar, four and a half
pounds of sugar. and as much mace,
cloves and cinnamon, or Whatever spice
is preferred, as will give the desired
ﬂavor. Lay the pared peaches upon
the sugar for an hour, then drain ed
the szrnn thus forms}, and add a cup-
iul or water. 31mg this to a boil and
skim as long as any scum rises; then
put in the 0 311131164. boil for ten minutes,
put into the j 11's: stdi the vinegar and
spices to the sirun. nail. ﬁfteen minutes
and ﬁll 1131 the jt‘uS.

PICKLED PEACHES. UNPARED -
W108 mth a curs». clots; to remove
the down, prick each peach with a
fork, and heat in ins; enough Water to
cover them. Weigh them. When the
water has nearly cached a '0311, take
out the peaches and put in three
pounds of sugar to each seven pounds of
fruit, b-z filing the strap t- 1115 :«armed for
fifteen minutes, an; skinning 1t t111
clear. Then add th1ee pints of vinega1
and the spices, which should be p1aced
in a small thin muslin bag, and consist
of one tablespoonful each of mace, all-
spice and cinnamon stick, with a tea-
spoonful each of celery seed and cloves.
Boil all together for ten minutes, then
return the peaches, and continue the
boiling till the fruit can be pierced
with a straw. Then remove the fruit
to be cooled and packed in jars, con-
tinue boiling the sirup till it is of
satisfactory thickness, and pour it over
the peaches while still scalding hot.

 

IN preparing pineapples one cannot
be too careful to remove every particle
of the "eyes” after paring. Then in.

‘ stead of slicing the fruit, commence at
the top and strip in small pieces from
,_ the outside to the centre or core.

 

 

Tiny shot-kins, or cucumm
be chosen for this purpose. the
prettiest size is from one inch and a
half to two inches and a hﬁfih length.
but they may be used Manly twice
as large. The smaller does require less
soaking in brine than thus of greater

seize. Leave stems on thegherkins if

possible, and be careful that there are
no specked or bruised specimens among
them. Christine '1‘. Herrick gives the
following as the best method.

Put the cucumbers in a good-sized
cheese-cloth bag, in which has bee”
placed a stone heavy enough to anchor
the bag in the bottom of the large
earthen- -ware crock or small keg which
is to hold your pickles during this ﬁrst
stage. Tie up the bag at the top and
lay it in the jar, taking care that none
of your gherkins are under the stone.
Pour in the brine, made strong enough
to bear up an egg. using about a quart
of salt to three gallons of water. Let
the cucumbers lie in the brine for at
least ten days, stirring the brine up
well three times a week. Fresh
cucumbers may be added from day to
day, but in that case the length of time
the bag and its contents remain in soak
must be proportionately increased. it
will not injure the cucumbers to re-
main for a month or six weeks in the
brine. Test its strength with an egg
from time to time, and add more salt if
necessary, or water, if this has evapo-
rated too rapidly.

-When the last cucumbers added to
the store have served their term in
saltwater, take them all out, pick
them over carefully, rejecting those
that have softened, and 1211; the others
in (30' (1 fresh water for forty-eight
'11:.- ms, changing the water once. during
that time. if the picklea are m be
greened it must be done at this stage.

Prepare the vinegar by adding to
eacl‘; quart twelve wnoze coves, twelve
whole clack pepper-cums, 51x whole
ailspice, sax blade: (.1 mace, a quarter
cf an onion sliced. :1311 (1111-131 1111 Die.
cup of sugar. l‘ie the 51111315. and union
up together in one or two small hugs
and boil the vinegns con? aininr these
and the sugar for live Inmates PuLik
the gherkins into astcne crock, pour
the boiling vinegar over them. and
cover the jar 121gn1.ly. The vinegar
must be drazued from the pickle three
days later, sunld ag sin. 2.1.51 poured back
on the gherkins, an this operation re‘
peated a week later, and then again on
the tenth day. The pickles may then
be arranged in em .11 jun: or left in a
large crock. In e1t‘ner case, they must
be covered clOsely. They will be ready
for the table in six or 195111 weeks.

String- beans, radish pods, and small
green tomatoes may be put up by the
same method, and also because the
direction, if absolutely ooeyed Will
yield thoroughly satisfactory results.
Should these pickles not prove sharp
enough to suit all tastes, the fault may
be remedied by using less sugar to the
same amount of vinegar.

HOUSEHOLD HINTS.

 

 

TIN cans that tomatoes and corn come
in are godd to pack sausage in. Press
down for a while after you think there
are no chinks left. Pour hot lard on
tap. When wanted to fry, set in hot
water a minute. It will slip out with a
“tunk” on the bottom.—R. U. Y.

 

'9'

Maui-ants hesitsvniueinﬁe
housekeeper. Heurrsntssropleoesin
shat collanderand a smell attempt
water-allowed to run over memimm
thetaucet, thestemoan new
bylnakings monuments;
ﬁngersthroughthecurrants.

 

Amen drainer is a household con-
venience that would save, trouble and
toll to a good many women, and give
them cleaner sweeter dishes to use in
the bargain, if they would only be per-
suaded to invest. A dish rinsed by turn-
ing clean hot water over it and dried
without wiping, is cleaner than the
same dish wiped on the“ average dish
towel, and once handling is saved. A
dish drainer described by an exchange
is like this: It was of tin, two feet in
diameter, with sides that sloped towards
the centre. There was a removable
bottom like a skimmer, and underneath
was a grooved bottom with an escape
for the water that is poured over the
dishes to make them easily wiped. and
thoroughly free from every bit of dish
water. This was one of the bestlabor
savers I have seen. and every kitchen
would be the better for one.

 

Z E. R. 0. says the inquiring read-
er should use two cups of sifted ﬂour in
the graham cake, or pudding.

 

Useful Recipes.

Coprisu BALLS -Use equal parts of shred
ded ﬁs‘n (wi1hont seeking) and of uncooked
potatOes pared and cut into thin slices. The
ﬁsh and potatoes are put Into tepid water to
boil together. When cooked dry off and
mash as you would 1:or mashed potatoes
that you wished to be light and nice. Partly

‘cool the potatoes, tron beat in an egg, a

few tablespoonfdi: of milk or sweet cream
(do not. make i0"; moist). and if necessary a
little Ball. Best and mix until light and
then with a moon roll Large lumps of the
potatoes into balls that are more oval than
round and drop into the fat. which must be
very hot, so but {hat the blue smoke which
indicates a high temperature is seen.

SIEAMED Pomona—1393.110 F. cream two
large tablespoonfuls of butter and sugar,
one teacupful sweet milk, two teacupl’uls
ﬂour. tw0 teaspoonfuls baking powder. a
pinch of salt and two well beaten eggs. Mix
well, pour in a greased basin or mould and
steam an hour. his improved with fruit
but is good without. To be eaten with
cream and sugar, or sugar and butter rubbed
to a cream; ﬂavor with almond or vanilla.

 

PIEPLANT J Ann—Seasons when fruit is
scarce, pieplant jam may be made to take
the place of some of the ordinary domestic
supplies. Pete and cut the stalks, to every
pound allow a pound of sugar and half the
rind of a lemon. Please the fruit in a
preserving kettle. strew over the sugar and
set it on the stove where it will not heat very
fast at ﬁrst. Stir frequently to prevent its
scorching. Slice the lemon rind thin and
add it to the rhubarb and cook slowly until
it' is rich and somewhat stiﬂ. then dip it into
jars or tumblers and cover the same as jail».
—0. J Farmer. '

 

 

  
      

    
  
       
   
     
  
  
   
  
   
   
 
    
    
  
   
   
    
  
   
    
  
  
  
   
   
 
  
  
   
   
   
   
  
   
    
 
  
   
   
    
    
  
   
 
  
   
    
  
   
 
 
 
  
  
   
   
 

 

 
       
         
     
       
 
 

  
   


      
 

 

 

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DETROIT, SEPT. 9, 1898.

 

THE HOUSEHOLD-“Supplement.

 

 

THAT LITTLE PRAYER.

 

ﬁe ﬁre upon the hearth is low.
And there is stillness everywhere:
Like troubled spirits here and there
The ﬁrelight shadows ﬂuttering go.
And as the shadows round me creep.
A childish treble breaks the gloom,
And softly from a further room
Comes: “Now I lay me down to sleep."

And. somehow. with that little prayer
And that sweet treble in my ears,
My thoughts go back to distant years,
And linger with a dear one there;
And as I h or the child‘s amen.
My mother‘s faith comes back to me—
Crouched at her side I seem to be.
And mother holds my hand again,

Oh, for an hour in that dear place!
Oh, for the peace of that dear time!
Oh. for that childish trust sublime!

Oh, for a glimpse of mother’s face!

Yet, as the shadows round me creep.

I do not seem to be alone-
Sweet magic of that trembling tone
And. “Now I lay me down to sleep!"

.._........ .....

 

When he was youth and she was maid
Full oft would he declare

He loved to see her charms displayed
In setting rich and tare.

The costliest lace, the gayest plume,
The quaintest broidered stuﬁ.

The choicest fabric of the loom
Was hardly choice enough.

Years pass, and Angelina‘s life
With Edwin‘s now is blent.
And—he a husband. she a wife—
His tastes are diﬁerent.
Simplicity, he says. is best—
Away with vulgar show!
She shines the fairest when she‘s dressed
In eight cent calico.
_———...—————

A. SUMMER‘S EXPERIENCES.

 

After enjoying the lake breezes at
Bay View for most of the season we are
again anchored at home and the home
and society cares must be resumed, but
the common every day harness can be
adjusted so much easier after the plea-
sant change that many lives never know.

After two weeks spent among the
wonders and delights of the White City
until body and brain were too weary to
care for more, even though all .he world
has contributed to the beauty and
grandeur of that center of attraction,
we hied away to the bracing air and
the many educational advantages of
Bay View.

It is reported that other resorts are .

suffering nota little from lack of at-

employed during the four weeks of this
Assembly, beside giving several beneﬁt
entertainments. We had such singers
as Mrs. Gznevra Johnstone-Blshop, of
Chicago, the Lotus Gzee Club, of Bos-
ton, and also the Boston Stars; such
grand orators as DJ. Crawford, Rev.
McIntyre, of Denver, and Hon. John
Temple Graves, of Atlanta, with such
an earnest advocate of purity for the
youth as Anthony C)mstock, of New
York; and there were able, earnest
ministers and the long list of teachers
and those who entertained, with ﬁne
stereoptlcon and impressive beach ser-
vices, the gleanings from the W. C. T.
U. School of Methods and the Woman’s
Council, and oh the many, many Food
things that we saw and heard!

We incidentally remarked that we
went to Chicago to use our eyes and to
Bay View to use our ears when some
one facetiously asked where we were
going to use our mouths and we said:
"Right here at home,” but. of a truth
the half cannot be told however busy
our tongues may be.

Now comes the annual school meet-
ing and “we ladies are going to vote.”
Not that we expect our work will tell in
any noticeable way at ﬁrst. Let us step
in quietly with no attempt at making
our presence felt, and learn what we
ought to do and what we desire to do
before any radical steps are taken, if
ever. There will doubtless be many
women who in voting on municipal and
school matters will try to overturn all
established customs and revolutionize
matters, but it seems quite unwise.
Failure lies in the path of those who,
in comparative ignorance, attempt what
they cannot carry out. I believe it is
our dutv to accept and use carefully and
prayerfully every right conceded. Prove
that we want and appreciate these pri-
vileges by using but not abusing them.

and fearing
seeking women will be the only ones to
respond, so let us take up this duty as

. one that is life-long; and not make haste

to carry any pet project until the proper
harvest time comes after a seed-sowing

 

tion.

 

duty in that line and I shall do, for what
I now believe to be the general good,
what I, personally, would not care to do.
One of my trials is that in this place
it is an established custom for the band
to give an Open air concert on every
Saturday evening and Main street is the
scene of a grand promenade for men
and women, youth and maiden, children
of all ages on foot and in cabs, and oh
the jostle and jargon and the vile odors
that ﬁll the air of tobacco and beer and
the loathsome cigarette! The stores
and saloons are a blaze of light and high
carnival'prevails. To me it seems that
these misses are contaminated by all
that they see and hear until the delicate
bloom from the fruit is gone; their
maidenly purity is not left unsullied. It
must,:of necessity, make young girls
more bold and ﬂippant of speech, more
ready to meet and associate with stran~ '
gers and those of doubtful character.
Even those of such tender age as eight
or ten years scorn a chaperone and
must go with their chums, and for hours
the parade goes on. I am laughed at
and called “notional” because I cannot
approve of this publicity, where all
classes meet on a common level and
jostle along or stand in loud-talking
groups under every awning with only
the ﬁtful light of the street lamps that
leave many dark mischief-hatching
corners. If it is bad for young girls
what is it for the boys? Many a ﬁrst
cigarette might be traced to these alley
vigils, and oh! the slang and oaths. the
petty thieving and deeds of evil that
are the natural result of these evenings
on the street! I said all classes meet
there and in a sense it is true; but the
better class of ladies are seldom seen

 

 

and some men prefer a newspaper at
home, yet that apparently does not
lessen the surging crowd. I may be a
l“fogy” with ideas away behind the

So let us do that more may be added. .times, but it will be long before my
. Many men are dreading this innovation . education can tolerate such things as
that a few foolish ofﬁce .these.

v As the season of cooler weather draws
nigh the rheumatism begins to tighten
. its grasp and I wonder if all the victims
. know of the relief to be obtained by the
5 When one cannot lie

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of studious and painstaking prepara~ or sit in any position in comfort, aduZEn
I have repeatedly said that I had

or twenty sharp blows with the ﬂat

tendance,but we are proud to state that a all the rights that I wanted and there- hand will often give relief. Don't think
the Bay View managers paid one hun- fore had no desire to vote; but while at you can treat a sore hip or shoulder in

dred cents an the dollar for all talent ; Bay View my eyes were Opened to my , that way without pain, for it is heroic


 

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treatment;but the end j ustiﬁes the means
and it is the only occasion when a man
may with propriety pound his wife, al—
though it might not be wise to let the
gossips see or hear for fear of unneigh
borly reports. It is not in any sense
curative but seems to loosen the grip of
the disease on the muscles for a time.
I often think of the slapping machine
in the Swedish movement room of the
Alma Sazitarium, and long to be there
for a brief space, for its work is even
better than the laying on of hands.
BOMEn. EL. SEE.

WHAT CAN WOMAN DO?

For the past three months, in fact al-
most ever since the Columbian Exposi~
tion began, there has been but one sub-
ject discussed in our little paper, and
that has been woman; what she could
do, Would do, should do and did do.
Why, bless me, what a woman can do,
and does do, would kill an ordinary
man out rig oil We have women authors,
artists, edit..zrs, doctors, lawyers, minis-
ters and farmers; we see woman 0n the
lecture stand, behind desk and counter,
everywhere and anywhere. SJe is cap-
able of ﬁlling any place a man is, but
still she isn’t satisﬁed; she wants to vote
and run the government, and do all man
has done.

All this I have read, and more: and
alter summing all up I ﬁnd we have no
use for man, at all; he is only in the
way. In afew short years he will be
crowded to the wall, where he will look
helplessly ontand say “What is there
for us to do? where shall we go '9” while
throngs of women will pass by to their
places of business with looks of con-
tempt. Is this what the “Woman’s
Movement” means? But as Samantha
says, “I have been episoding,” and Iwill
be serious. Several times I have pick-
ed up my pen to express my views but
thoughts would crowd so thick and fast
that I laid it down in despair; but there
has been so much written on the sub-
ject that Icannotlet it rest. M. E. E,
in her reply to George, says that she
verily believes that what made nine-
tenths of the sly, weak-minded and no
moral-stamina people, is the brutal, in-
considerate, domineering treatment of
men over them. Tnis I believe in a
measure to be true, and also, one reason
why wives obj-act to a large family.
There is so much put upon them, they
are called upon to bear so much, that
every little one adds to the burden
rather than lightens it.

As to whether women will purify
politics by their votes. I have my
doubts. I only hope they may, but I
fear it will be like the scene I witness-
ed at a county fair- I had stayed on the
grand stand till I was nearly dying of
thirst when I went down to one of the
wells on the grounds to get a drink;
there I saw women and children wait-
ing for water and strong men coming
and going far the same purpose and

 

never once offering a woman or child
a cup of water; nor could they get any,
for as soon as the cup was dropped, an-
other man grabbed it; and had it not
been chained to the pump it would have
been carried away entirely. I waited a
while, looking on in disgust, and ﬁnally
gave up and bought a glass of
lemonade.

Is it because women are becoming so
iniependent and self supporting that so
much discourtesy is showed them in
public by the opposite sex? Don’t you
tnink it will be a little like this in poli-
tics? Men will become used to seeing
women at the polls to vote; they will
go back to their old habits oi spitting,
swearing, drinking. I have no desire
to vote. If men are not capable of mak-
ing our laws and running this govern-
ment then women certainly are not.

I have the great' st admiration for a
woman who has the courage to face the
world alone, and earn her own living.
rather than marry for a home and run
t is risk of an unhappy marriage,
which is very often the case. Earning
an honest living and mixing up in
politics are two different things alto-
gether; women enter the political ﬁeld
111 _ [‘3 for notority and fame than any
t.1ing else.

I think that Beatrix asserted in her
letter “What of the Woman’s Move-
m :nt, 7’ in the HOUSEHOLD of June 17th,
that it is always the woman who makes
the home. I cannot agree with her.
Man has it in his power whm he mar-
ries the girl he has chosen for his wife,
to drag her down _to the lowest depths
of poverty and despair or make a name
for himself and her they will both be
proud to bear. They must both work to-
gether for the good and interest of that
home; each try to do right; both forget,
and forgive, overlooking one another’s
iaults,then and not till then will woman
be more contented in her home, then
and not till then will the divorce suits
be lessened in our courts.

MRS A. D).

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ERRORS IN PRONUNCIATION.

 

An accomplished linguist once said to
me: "I would be more proud of speak-
ing the English language correctly than
oi proﬁciency in all the other languages
——ancient and modern. ” At the same
time it is doubtful if one can be master
of the English tongue without a knowl-
edge of the ancient roots from which
it derives its strength. ,

But putting aside the question of per-
fection, which few of us can hope to at-
tain, there are numerous mistakes
which we make through carelessness
and which a little thought and consult-
ation of the dictionary would enable us
to avoid. One error is common to most
western people—that of using the short,
ﬂat “a” for the Italian. Why do we
keep on say'ng “left” in the face of all
that is said and written about it? A
friend says that people think she is af-

 

fected when she tries to broaden her a’s,
and relates how when she asked for
“tomahtoes” the grocer crushingly re-
plied: “We are inst out,” though a
large basket of the fruit stood near.
But we can afford to endure alittle ridi-
cule from the “rabble-babble” when we
know we are right.

The difﬁculty is certainly increased
for the seeker after truth in that there
are so many excellent authorities who
diﬁer so radically from each other. The
Century dictionary stands preeminent,
but not every one is so fortunate as to
possess or even have access to it. Web-
ster is commonly accepted, but in case
of disputed pronunciation I would
greatly prefer Smart or Worcester, and
when they agree,as frequently happens.
one may feel reasonably safe.

We hear a great deal about “new
tangled” ways of talking, but quite often
it may be proved that the right way is
the old way and that the incorrect form
has been accepted simply because no
one has taken the trouble to look it up.
It is hard to convince some people that
“gla-di-o‘lus” has always been accented
on the second syllable instead of the
third, and _“clem a-tis,” on the ﬁrst and
not second syllable. But is true never-
theless. “Retrograde,” "retrocede,’

and “camellia,” are words that I have '

always mispronounced until lately
Look them up in the International Dic-
tionary and possibly you will be as sur-
prised as I was at the result. All the
words ending in “inc” must. nowbe
pronounced to rhyme with “tin;" the
ﬁnal “8” is disregarded.

Usually, grammatical errors jar worse

than those in pronunciation. If people
would realiz: how their careless, slip
shod speech scunds to Outsiders, and
how closely they are judged according
to their manner of speaking, surely
they would take a little thought before
using such vulgarities as—“aint,” “i
ought to go, hadn’t I ?” “ Was it him?”
etc. In Mr. Howells’ "Coast of Bohe-
mia ” now bsing published asa serial in
the htdz'es‘ Home Journal, Ludiow, the
reﬁned man of the W)r.ld, Wishes that
Cornelia had said: " I don’t know that
I shall go,” instead of "' I don’t know as
I shall go,” but tries to reconcile him-
self to the inelegancy by reﬂscting that
nine persons out of ten would say the
same.

The use of the singular verb “ was "'
with the pronoun "' you ” always grate:-
on educated ears, and yet is common.
Pronouns are the most perplexing of
the parts oi speech, and even the very
particular stumble over them. Our
language lacks the singular pronoun of
common gender which should follow the
indeﬁnite antecedent “everybody;” and
innumerable errors or awkward con-
structions are the inevitable result.
Wny doesn’t somebody invent that
much needed pronoun and earn the
gratitude of all of us who try to speak
respectable English?

Pom Hoaon. E. c.

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THE MANAGEMENT OF PARENTS.

 

[Paper read by Mrs. H. R. Dewey before the
Grand Blanc Farmers’ Ulub. J one 23m. 1893.]

There has been much written and
many able discussions on the manage-
ment of children by their parents. It
has occurred to your programme com-
mittee that there is another question
closely interwoven with this One. which
has not been, perhaps, as fully ventilat-
ed. They have therefore suggested to
me the topic of the management of
parents, a topic to my mind much more
difﬁcult to reach. I have but little hope
of saying anything interesting, and yet
I believe there is room for deep study
and effective work.

Some one has said the training of a
child should begin with his great-
grandmother, one hundred years before
his birth. This is undeniably true, and
we perhaps can lay many of the errors
of parents of today to our inherited
traits and ideas; but don’t let us lay all
our faults at the doors of those ances-
tors. lt is an easy way of disposing of
the matter, but let us earnestly try to
correct errors in ourselves, that our
children may be an improved edition of
the race.

Solomon, acknowledged as the acme
of human wisdom, said “Greater is he
that ruleth his own spirit than he that
taketh a city.” So we may conclude
that the ﬁrst and most important matter
for us as parents, is to be thoroughly
masters of ourselves; to have high
ideals and pursue with unﬂinching ﬁdel-
ity the right and true. We are too
prone to assume because we have the
advantage of more age and experience
than our children, that we are always
in the right, and too proud or obstinate
to acknowledge a fault in ourselves,and
ask our children’s pardon,when we have
been the ones in fault, as we many times
are. Our humble acknowledgment of
a wrong action, and a plea for pardon
toeven the youngest child capable of
reasoning, will beget a spirit of love
and conﬁdence between parent and child
to their mutual beneﬁt.

Fathers and mothers should be help-
ful to each other Human nature is much
like agarden. A vast amount of culti-
Yation and pruning is necessary to keep
down the besetting weeds of selﬁsh-
ness and ill-temper—ill-temper which
Drummond calls "the v1ce of the virtu.
ous.” We claim to be a Christian com-
munity, but unless father can be pleas-
ant if dinner is ten minutes late, '_or the
bread happens to be sour, and mother’s
goodness carries her safely through the
ordeal of house—cleaning without fret-
ting and scolding, we have not enough
of the right kind of Christianity—that
for every day use. We all realize. this
at times, and it is the duty of parents
to kindly point out to each other these
times of failure, and with love and ten-
derness help and encourage to better
things. We are all but children of a

larger growth, and never outgrow the
need of training.

 

“Faithful are the wounds of a friend.”
Whose eye so keen to see our faults, so
eager to see amendment as those most
near and dear to us. I am not one of
those who believe, that we should be
blinded by love: but that it should make
us keener-eyed, but more charitable. A
loving companion will see failings" in us
to which we are completely blinded.
To ignore a‘ wrong never cures it, or
prevents its repetition, and plain speak-
ing, with love as the motive power,
only binds true hearts in closer bonds.

t is the tendency of people when they
reach middle life, to get into a rot or
groove. You will all remember i am
talking about farmers and farm-:rs‘
families. Hard work is a habit; there
is such a thing as this habit holding us
too strongly, in closer ties than our
circumstances demand. in tact it is
often one kind of intemperance, more

Iexcusable than the drink habit, but

often causing much unhappiness; for it
is not in average human nature to oe
goodﬁand kindly when overworked, par-
ticularly so with our nervous,emphatic.
ambitious American people: and just
here the children can come to the res-
cue.

And, when along in the 40‘s and 50's,
father lives almost entirely in his busi-
ness:and his newspaper, and mother in
the cares of housekeeping, the young
peonlc can, if they will take the pains
and use considerable tact, win the par-
ents to--an interest in outside things, a
younger and brighter aspeCt of life.
Pleasant things can be planned and
fatherland mother counted on as parti-
cipants. It may take alittle manage-
m;nt at ﬁrst to make them think they
can spare either the time or monev for
an occasional little pleasure trip, a con-
cert, or'lecture course, or many other
things so helpful to people, both old and
young. But if young people show that
they really enjoy the companionship of
their parents,in some, of their pleasures,
the time'and means will be oitener and
oftener forthcoming.

The reSponsihilities of farm life if
divided between parents and children
are less burdensome; some degree of
care is felt as an added honor and car-
ried proudly by young shoulders. i don’t
quite know why it is, but in too miny
cases young people seem to regard their
parents .almost as their natural enemies.
A girl will as :a general thing go with
her girlish conﬁdences to some other
girl, or say if she ever makesamistake,
"Don’t tell my mother;” and the boy
carefully .conceals any mischief his
youthful spirits may have led him info
from the “Gov.,”as he calls his father.
Mrs. Swift in her paper, “Father and
Son,” read Lat our Institute, lays the
blame to the sternness of the father,
but mother’s tenderness is proverbial.
Surely, in her would we expect her
children to conﬁde. But- the fact is
they don’t always do it. Youth is sel-
ﬁsh, perhaps naturally so, and children
forget that their parents were once

 

young. felt the same ambitions. had the
same aspirations, made the same mis-
takes as children of to-day, and would
be as ready to forgive errors, to sympao
thize in youthful trials as the most conv
ﬁdentiai friend of their oWn age, did
their children only give them the op-
portunity.

This apparent lack of conﬁdence often
leads to coldness aid estrangemcnt be»
tween those who should be in iullest
accord. I say apparent, because it is
often a feeling of difﬁdence on the part
of the young folks, a feeling that their
affairs, which seem of vast importance
to themselves, will be lightly regarded
by those burdened with life‘s heavier
duties. But if ocys and girls wish to
manage us in the fullest sense of the
word, let them claim our entire conr -
ﬁdence and give us theirs, and the; will
ﬁnd us as wax in their hands.‘

The idea of obedience to parents is all
right and proper to a certain extentmut
children are born with strong individu~
alities of their own,aud this idea of obs .
dience isolten somewhat overstrained ,
Because we are the parents. of a child
only gives us a claim to its implicit
obedience so far a: We are in the right,
Of course in infancy we have to decide
all matters for the child, but the earlier
a human soul learns to do right, simply
because it is right, and not because he
is forced to, the sooner he attains a per»
feet manhood. We as parents have no
right to expect any more love and re-
spect than we make ourselves worthy
of, and equally true is it of the child.

Mrs. Baker in her paper spoke of the
respect paid parents by English child-
ren, but has she not given us the keyto
this when she tells us that the English
mother of moderate means is usually
the companion of her older children?
In our American “rush” and pursuit of
the ”almighty dollar” we are too aptto
turn off our children as soon as they
can run alone; and giving most of our
time and energies to the accumulation
of wealth, wake up, in middle life. to
the knowledge that our children have
slipped away in a measure from our in»
ﬁuence. We have allowed a drifting
apart. Often, in the very effort we are
making to give them the higher educa-
tion and better opportunities for cul»
ture we were denied, we have found
ourselves somewhat old fashioned and
behind the times, no longer congenial
company for our own children. This
need not be so if we make a decided
effort to have it otherwise. Less read-
ing of the-daily newspaper with its army
of revolting murders and suicides, and
pages of political rubbish, and more
time given to looking in the best
literature of the day, reading with our
children, interesting ourselves in their
school and social life, and even if cir- .
cumstances allow, cultivating in later
life some of the accomplishments, along
with the young people. It seems to me
one is never too old to learn, and Inever ~
hear young people speaking of their ..

 


 

The Household.

 

 

studies and school discipline but I feel
that I would like to j Iin them.
In the companionship of parents and
children lies the greatest good of both.
I repeat, as I said before,we are allonly
children of different ages, of different
periods of development; all susceptible
to inﬂuences by which we are surround-
ed. I think it is a mistake, the idea
that the training' 13 all” to bedone by Wthe
parents. We children of riper years
are just as surely inﬂuenced by the
younger ones as they by us, and the
sooner this fact is recognized in a sen-
sible way the sooner a happier state of

.71 w—J

society wi‘lbe reached. 0ch and young 1

will be in closer sympathy ”We” older
ones will carry younger hearts in our
bosom-1: and. when in advanced life we
reach our second childhood and need
with our increasing inﬁrmities of mind
ahd body much loving tact and careful
consideration from those around us, ”we
shall_ not ﬁnd it lacking. There never
was a time 1n the world’s history when
the young had such opportunities 33:0“?
day. Not one of the least of these op-
portunities is their power for good over
us. who in our earlier years were
denied many of the advantages enjoyed
by our children.

“0.—

REDICULE

 

I wish all mothers could realize what
they are doing when they ridicule their
_ children; and not only the mothers but

older brothers and sisters as well. So
many examples of the results of th_1s
harmful practice have been broughtyto
my notice lately that I cannot refrain
from speaking of it. “"1 “1

Out of mere thoughtlessness, or a love
of teasing, older persons often inﬂict
positive torture on a child: and the in-
ﬂuence is felt ioug after the incident is
forgotten. It is sometimes outlived.
but oftener leavesits mark on the char-
acter after manhood or womanhood has
been attained.

I do not mean'to imply that it is only
in the home circle that ridicule is met,
but I mention that particularly, for its
effects are so much more harmful;
when father and mother laugh at the
mistakes or the innocently expressed
Opinions. the cb‘ld feels he has no-
where to turn for sympathy or conso-
lation.

Such treatment. although parents are
kindness itself in other directions,
effectually prevents children from plac-
ing full conﬁdence in theirynaiulalprg-
tectors and leads to a reserve which
will require years of patient, untiring
eﬁ‘crt to break down.

Do you think I place too much stress

her early years, was the victim of
thoughtless persecution on the part of
well meaning relatives. Her childish
follies were continually brought out
for her inspection.

Returning from some social gather-
ing she would perhaps be told how silly
she had been; other children with more
pleasing manners were held up to her
as models, after which she was to shape
her own be‘iavior. Mother and sister
had no scruples in giving her to under-
stand they were ashamed of her because
she had appeared so foolish beside the
other sweet children, regardless of the
effect produced; knOWing nothing of the
long night hours spent in bitter tears,
when the sensitive heart of the child
cried out for the love and sympathy it
so sadly needed. Nut that they did not
love her, but love has such strange ways
of revealing itself. Tue girl’s natural,
somewhat awkward bashfulness, de-
veloped, under this pressure, into
an almost extreme self-consciousness,
which left its mark on her whole after
life.

We are told that one sin leads to an-
o ther, and the same is true of results.
Study of other girls’ manners and
habits and attempts at imitation could
not fail to destroy originality’in a great
m easure. Now that this girl is grown,
her social life is one constant struggle
to Overcome self-consciousness and a
tendency to imitate. 0.11y by great
effort and constant watchfulness alone,
is she succeeding.

Mothers. I beg you to think of this
when you are tempted to ridicule
children; check any disposition in them
to taunt each other with their mis-
takes. Self respect is not conceit, and
to lower a child’s natural self respect is
positive. cruelty. V. I. M.

BATTLE Conan.

W

COMMENTS ON CORRESPONDENCE.

 

I think Beatrix has the right of the
matter in "In Behalf. of my Grandmoth-
er.” We are largely in fault for our own

sufferings. We bring them, in a great
measure, upon ourselves. Look at the
food of the present day! We are all

the time planning little delicacies to
tempt the appetite. We spend too
much time with our clothes. Our grand-
mothers when invited out to tea thought
they fared sumptuously on bread. honey,
plain stirred cake, and a cup of tea.
We must have at least two kinds of
cake, pickles, numerous j :llies, salads,
tarts, etc., till one who has partaken of
each dish must go home with the stom-
ach is a deranged condition which may
be the starting point of one of the vari-

 

on this subject? Is it such alittle thing
after a! ‘9 Oh, if we could only trace to:
their source some of the grave faults of
our friends, or of ourselves, how often
would they be found to Spring from
some such little matter as this!

I have in mind one girl, who, during

one diseases whose f< undation is proven
to lie in that Oigan.

Life will be robbed of half its horrors
when we become temperate in drink,
dress and diet, and if Frances Willard,
Mrs. J enness Miller, or our other agit-
ators ever set the stone rolling to bring

about that reform they will have'ao-
complished a great work.

No great reform was ever brought
about whose originators were not laugh-

ed and scoffed at.

In regard to the unpopularity of
motherhood which the woman question
has so vividly brought forth, it seems
to me that it is time for the birth rate
to decrease and greater efforts be made
to allay the sufferings of those already
in the world.

Few of us realize how great is the suf-
fering in large cities. Rev. Thomas
Dixon tells us that in New York City a
dray load, piled high, of coﬂins or
wooden boxes containing the bodies of
dead children is taken to the potter’s
ﬁeld every other day; and never a day
passes that there does not come to his
door some pitiful appeal for help.

We learn that a great deal of this suf-
fering is caused by liquor. Then shall
we not applaud those who leave their
own homes to work in so great a cause?
If one son is lost from the home of a
worker and in the end these sufferers
are saved, “ What shall the harvest
be.”

Can’t Beatrix tell us something that
we each may do? Can we accomplish a
good work by taking fresh air children?

It seems to me that we do not aid the
greatest suﬂ‘erers in doing for that class.

BURDOCK.

 

A CHAIR of D.1mestic Economy has
just been established at Storrs Agricul-
tural College, Conn., and Miss Lottie J.
Short called to occupy it. The Massa-
chusetts Ploughman suggestively com-
ments: "It would be well if instruction
of this sort cJuld be given in some other
colleges before domestic economy he-
comes one of the lost arts.”

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Contributed Recipes.

MOUNTAIN Pia—Stir into one half cup
of cream two tablespoonfuls of ﬁnely mashed
fruit sweetened to taste. Add the yolks of
two eggs well beaten, and one tablespoon fnl
of melted butter; bake in pastry; while
baking beat the whites of the two eggs to a
stiff froth, sweeten with white sugar, spread
over the pie and return to the oven to brown.
Use either green or dried fruit.

 

PUMPKIN Flu—One quart of strained
pumpkin; two quarts rich milk; one-half cup
of brown sugar; six well beaten eggs; two
teaspoonfuls of ginger; one teaspoonnt of
salt.

KIDNEY Puss —Cut into small, thin slides,
sOme veal kidneys from which the skin and
fat have been removed; melt some good
butter, season it with salt, pepper and not.
meg; stir in the sliced kidneys and when
they are still saturated distribute them in
small patty pans, lined with puff paste; cover
these with paste, cutting a hole in the mid-
dle, and having previously moistened the
inner edges to make them unite; let them
bake quickly in a moderate oven, after
which till them up with rich gravy and serve.
Tins preparation requires but little time; it

 

ought no‘ to be made until a few minutes
before serving. Z E. ft. 0.

    

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
    

