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  <&>Wellington Corpus of Spoken New Zealand English Version One</&>
  <&>Copyright 1998 School of Linguistics & Applied Language Studies</&>
  <&>Victoria University of Wellington</&>

  <&>side one</&>
  <&>0:06</&>
  

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      so anyway um i'm going to phone him tonight cos um i just phone
      every second <.>s</.> well no every couple of days <{><[><unclear>word</unclear></[>

  <WSC#DPC253:0010:VL>
      <[><?>where are you going to</?></[></{> which song are you
      going to request

  <WSC#DPC253:0015:AB>
      well i don't <.>kn</.>

  <WSC#DPC253:0020:AB>
      yeah cos i don't know much music i don't really know any songs

  <WSC#DPC253:0025:VL>
      <.>ring</.> ring <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0030:AB>
      so i kind of say roger i'm in a really BAD mood so play a bad
      mood song for me

  <WSC#DPC253:0035:AB>
      so he does

  <WSC#DPC253:0040:VL>
      oh how very sweet how long is it since he <.>was</.> he was
      married

  <WSC#DPC253:0045:AB>
      um i think it must be about two years cos i think he must <.>have</.>
      he told me that he was married for five years

  <WSC#DPC253:0050:AB>
      so i think it must have been when <.>scott</.> when she was
      going to have the baby

  <WSC#DPC253:0055:AB>
      so i'd say <{><[><unclear>word</unclear> there</[>

  <WSC#DPC253:0060:VL>
      <[><unclear>word</unclear> yeah</[></{>

  <WSC#DPC253:0065:VL>
      oh <{><[><?>how to make you</?></[> sad

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      <[>three years</[></{>

  <WSC#DPC253:0075:AB>
      <{><[>sad?</[>

  <WSC#DPC253:0080:VL>
      <[><unclear>word</unclear></[></{> <.>h</.>

  <WSC#DPC253:0085:VL>
      well i think it is

  <WSC#DPC253:0090:VL>
      i think divorce is

  <WSC#DPC253:0095:AB>
      yeah

  <WSC#DPC253:0100:VL>
      it hurts people <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0105:AB>
      he's really attached to his children

  <WSC#DPC253:0110:VL>
      yeah that's what really hurts

  <WSC#DPC253:0115:VL>
      i couldn't stand <&>1:00</&> that

  <WSC#DPC253:0120:VL>
      to have children then like <{><[>having</[> them taken off me

  <WSC#DPC253:0125:VL>
      i'd <.>just</.> i'd go crazy

  <WSC#DPC253:0130:AB>
      <[>mm</[></{>

  <WSC#DPC253:0135:AB>
      mm <{1><[1>i think you would</[1> actually particularly if
      you're a woman

  <WSC#DPC253:0140:AB>
      um <O>tut</O> although i don't <.>kn</.> i mean i think it's
      <{2><[2><.>quite</.></[2>

  <WSC#DPC253:0145:VL>
      <[1><unclear>word</unclear></[1></{1>

  <WSC#DPC253:0150:VL>
      <[2>it hurts</[2></{2> everyone <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0155:AB>
      yeah but probably the children as well <?>exactly</?>

  <WSC#DPC253:0160:VL>
      i don't know i think children are very flexible

  <WSC#DPC253:0165:VL>
      i think <.>they</.> they learn <.>to</.> to live with whatever
      they've got <.>qu</.>

  <WSC#DPC253:0170:VL>
      <{1><[1><.>ava</.> i mean people

  <WSC#DPC253:0175:VL>
      they learn that's normal</[1> i mean it's only people that come
      from <.>strictly</.> i mean some nuclear families can be more
      destructive <{2><[2>and</[2> harmful

  <WSC#DPC253:0180:AB>
      <[1>mm</[1></{1>

  <WSC#DPC253:0185:AB>
      <[2><?>you know</?> yeah yeah</[2></{2>

  <WSC#DPC253:0190:AB>
      mm than just <.>one</.> <O>inhales</O>

  <WSC#DPC253:0195:AB>
      particularly if both of them like really give quality time when
      they've got <{><[>their</[> children

  <WSC#DPC253:0200:VL>
      <[>yeah</[></{>

  <WSC#DPC253:0205:VL>
      do you want to hear about my current moan

  <WSC#DPC253:0210:AB>
      yes <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0215:VL>
      about my parents

  <WSC#DPC253:0220:AB>
      tell me <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0225:VL>
      well my parents went to london and that was just fine just fine
      <{1><[1>you know

  <WSC#DPC253:0230:VL>
      we</[1> didn't really need to hear them celebrating about having
      <{2><[2>no <laughs><unclear>word</unclear></[2> children any
      more</laughs>

  <WSC#DPC253:0235:VL>
      but that was a bit hurtful <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0240:AB>
      <[1>yeah mm</[1></{1>

  <WSC#DPC253:0245:AB>
      <[2>oh <unclear>word</unclear></[2></{2>

  <WSC#DPC253:0250:AB>
      yeah <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0255:VL>
      but um they were going to go to london for a year and then they
      were going to come back

  <WSC#DPC253:0260:VL>
      and then they were you know going to <&>2:00</&> <.>s</.>
      consider what to do

  <WSC#DPC253:0265:VL>
      and they were going to come back for christmas

  <WSC#DPC253:0270:VL>
      and it was going to be like the first family christmas for FIVE
      years

  <WSC#DPC253:0275:VL>
      <{><[>it</[> was going to be this big major deal <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0280:AB>
      <[>mm</[></{>

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      mm <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0290:VL>
      and we were actually all going to be in the same CITY <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0295:AB>
      mm <latch> let alone the same COUNTRY

  <WSC#DPC253:0300:VL>
      and um then i heard via via my three sisters sort of i <.>didn't</.>

  <WSC#DPC253:0305:VL>
      they didn't even ring to tell me or even write to me or anything

  <WSC#DPC253:0310:VL>
      um to say that um they're actually coming home for two weeks and
      then they're going to go and live in frankfurt for three years

  <WSC#DPC253:0315:AB>
      oh my god

  <WSC#DPC253:0320:VL>
      <laughs>and i was</laughs> really really angry and really hurt
      about that because they hadn't sort of bothered to ring and
      <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0325:AB>
      tell <{><[>you</[>

  <WSC#DPC253:0330:VL>
      <[>tell me</[></{>

  <WSC#DPC253:0335:VL>
      <laughs>but then <.>i</.></laughs> it was it was quite odd and
      um i sort of i got over that a lot and <{1><[1>decided</[1> that
      it was really hurtful

  <WSC#DPC253:0340:VL>
      <{2><[2>but</[2> um but <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0345:AB>
      <[1>mm</[1></{1>

  <WSC#DPC253:0350:AB>
      <[2>mm</[2></{2>

  <WSC#DPC253:0355:AB>
      <O>tut</O> i <.>think</.> do you have <.>a</.> <latch> <.>m</.>
      maria pointed out to me you're not being breastfed any more <{><[><unclear>word</unclear></[>

  <WSC#DPC253:0360:AB>
      <[>yeah</[></{> but i mean still do you have a big relationship
      with them do you <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0365:VL>
      <laughs>no i have a <.>terrible</.></laughs>

  <WSC#DPC253:0370:VL>
      well i get <&>3:00</&> on well with them but they're <.>just</.>

  <WSC#DPC253:0375:VL>
      it's not a <.>real</.>

  <WSC#DPC253:0380:AB>
      and do they get on well with <{><[>each</[> other

  <WSC#DPC253:0385:VL>
      <[>feeling</[></{>

  <WSC#DPC253:0390:VL>
      oh yes

  <WSC#DPC253:0395:VL>
      <slowly>that's the thing um</slowly>

  <WSC#DPC253:0400:VL>
      i just don't think they really wanted children

  <WSC#DPC253:0405:AB>
      <O>tut</O> i think a lot of people don't

  <WSC#DPC253:0410:AB>
      like you know when you grow up you're expected to be perfect
      husband perfect wife and mother and father at the same <{1><[1>time</[1>

  <WSC#DPC253:0415:AB>
      and i think people are either a parent <{2><[2>like</[2>
      permanently or else they're <O>tut</O> er a spouse a husband or
      wife

  <WSC#DPC253:0420:AB>
      i mean <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0425:VL>
      <[1>yeah</[1></{1>

  <WSC#DPC253:0430:VL>
      <[2>mm</[2></{2>

  <WSC#DPC253:0435:VL>
      oh

  <WSC#DPC253:0440:AB>
      my parents didn't get on very well but they um they both loved
      being mummy and daddy

  <WSC#DPC253:0445:AB>
      you know <{1><[1>they they</[1> hated husband and wife shit but
      um they both really liked being um parents

  <WSC#DPC253:0450:AB>
      <{2><[2><unclear>word</unclear></[2>

  <WSC#DPC253:0455:VL>
      <[1><.>seri</.> <.>se</.></[1></{1>

  <WSC#DPC253:0460:VL>
      <[2>i'm</[2></{2> sure the problem is that my father's so
      selfish that like mum made up for it by being incredibly
      unselfish and by giving everything

  <WSC#DPC253:0465:VL>
      <{1><[1>and</[1> like now she resents the sacrifices she's <{2><[2>made</[2>

  <WSC#DPC253:0470:VL>
      so it means that she's now like saying that's all over and she's

  <WSC#DPC253:0475:VL>
      <{3><[3>like withdrawing financial</[3> support was fine but
      <{4><[4>like</[4> she's withdrawn all support

  <WSC#DPC253:0480:AB>
      <[1>mm</[1></{1>

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      <[2>mm</[2></{2>

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      <[3>mm <unclear>word</unclear></[3></{3>

  <WSC#DPC253:0495:AB>
      <[4><?>yeah</?></[4></{4>

  <WSC#DPC253:0500:AB>
      yeah

  <WSC#DPC253:0505:VL>
      i don't know do you still get on with your parents <&>4:00</&>

  <WSC#DPC253:0510:AB>
      um <O>tut</O> well i only have one parent these days

  <WSC#DPC253:0515:AB>
      <{><[>my</[> father died when i was fifteen <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0520:VL>
      <[>oh</[></{>

  <WSC#DPC253:0525:VL>
      oh <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0530:AB>
      which wasn't actually as long as it feels but never mind

  <WSC#DPC253:0535:AB>
      um <O>tut</O> so no the thing was oh god he married when he was
      thirty five a confirmed bachelor type of thing

  <WSC#DPC253:0540:AB>
      and mum was um eleven years younger

  <WSC#DPC253:0545:AB>
      and er he i think he basically really dominated her because he
      was from the older generation that um that felt the wife should
      be in the kitchen

  <WSC#DPC253:0550:AB>
      i mean it <{1><[1>started</[1> their marriage like if he had
      visitors he used to send her out of the room type of thing

  <WSC#DPC253:0555:AB>
      <O>tut</O> so um yeah so they both really got into the parenting
      thing and they um really loved it

  <WSC#DPC253:0560:AB>
      but mum always felt very upset that she was never encouraged to
      go further at school

  <WSC#DPC253:0565:AB>
      so when he died she decided that she'd like to go back to <.>u</.>
      er polytech to get a degree

  <WSC#DPC253:0570:AB>
      so she went and moved us up to new plymouth and went to polytech
      for two years and got a business um degree i think

  <WSC#DPC253:0575:AB>
      and then now <&>5:00</&>

  <WSC#DPC253:0580:AB>
      she's managing a music shop

  <WSC#DPC253:0585:AB>
      <{2><[2>so she's</[2> really happy

  <WSC#DPC253:0590:AB>
      but i mean we've always been close

  <WSC#DPC253:0595:AB>
      but we run up inCREDIBLE toll bills

  <WSC#DPC253:0600:AB>
      we probably phone each other three or four times a week <{3><[3>particularly</[3>
      when we're really depressed

  <WSC#DPC253:0605:AB>
      <laughs>it's <.>real</.></laughs> it's awful

  <WSC#DPC253:0610:AB>
      i've told her it would be cheaper to um take up alcohol really
      cheap

  <WSC#DPC253:0615:VL>
      <[1>yeah</[1></{1>

  <WSC#DPC253:0620:VL>
      <[2>oh right</[2></{2>

  <WSC#DPC253:0625:VL>
      <[3><O>laughs</O></[3></{3>

  <WSC#DPC253:0630:VL>
      <O>laughs</O>

  <WSC#DPC253:0635:VL>
      <{><[>yeah but</[>

  <WSC#DPC253:0640:AB>
      <[><O>exhales</O></[></{> one phone call to her one day when i
      was really upset cost me twenty two dollars

  <WSC#DPC253:0645:VL>
      <laughs>oh god</laughs>

  <WSC#DPC253:0650:AB>
      and i just thought oh my god bottle of brandy would be far <{><[><?>easier</?></[>

  <WSC#DPC253:0655:AB>
      just knock yourself out and go to sleep

  <WSC#DPC253:0660:VL>
      <[><O>laughs</O></[></{>

  <WSC#DPC253:0665:VL>
      yeah but i mean you need that <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0670:AB>
      mm <latch> that contact

  <WSC#DPC253:0675:VL>
      like when i was really sick last week i <.>rang</.> i you know
      toll bill was nothing <{1><[1>cos</[1> i just needed <{2><[2>you</[2>
      needed to talk to people

  <WSC#DPC253:0680:VL>
      and <{3><[3>you need</[3> like you need that connection <.>to</.>
      <.>to</.> to home and <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0685:AB>
      <[1>mm</[1></{1>

  <WSC#DPC253:0690:AB>
      <[2>mm</[2></{2>

  <WSC#DPC253:0695:AB>
      <[3>yeah</[3></{3>

  <WSC#DPC253:0700:AB>
      mm to be around

  <WSC#DPC253:0705:VL>
      like i mean i just <.>had</.> i had to talk to my twin sister
      <.>for</.> like i just talked to her for hours and hours

  <WSC#DPC253:0710:VL>
      and i rang up this old friend that i hadn't talked to for like
      um about eight <&>6:00</&> MONTHS <.>and</.> and <{><[>um</[>

  <WSC#DPC253:0715:VL>
      er you <.>ju</.> you need that

  <WSC#DPC253:0720:AB>
      <[>mm</[></{>

  <WSC#DPC253:0725:AB>
      <O>tut</O> and i think also when you're really depressed you
      tend to look round and go oh there's no one around that loves me

  <WSC#DPC253:0730:AB>
      i've got no friends and <{><[>no one</[> really cares

  <WSC#DPC253:0735:AB>
      so you try to think oh i'd love to talk to someone

  <WSC#DPC253:0740:AB>
      so you just end up speaking <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0745:VL>
      <[><.>tha</.></[></{>

  <WSC#DPC253:0750:VL>
      even <{><[>even</[> like your new friends that you <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0755:AB>
      <[><unclear>word</unclear></[></{>

  <WSC#DPC253:0760:AB>
      mm <latch> that you've met

  <WSC#DPC253:0765:VL>
      for me that i've met since i've come to wellington <{><[>since</[>
      i've come you know to varsity and that <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0770:AB>
      <[>mm</[></{>

  <WSC#DPC253:0775:AB>
      mm <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0780:VL>
      you can get really close to them but it's still not the same

  <WSC#DPC253:0785:AB>
      <O>tut</O> because they don't know your background and they <{><[>don't
      know</[> where you've come from

  <WSC#DPC253:0790:AB>
      i mean the thing is that if you're meeting people particularly
      like in a university situation it's like hi i'm caroline this is
      me type of thing

  <WSC#DPC253:0795:AB>
      and you make a judgement on how i appear but you don't know
      anything about the previous sixteen years of my life <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0800:VL>
      <[>yeah</[></{>

  <WSC#DPC253:0805:VL>
      yeah <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0810:AB>
      why <.>i</.> why someone acts the way they <&>telephone rings in
      background</&> do

  <WSC#DPC253:0815:AB>
      and it's um <O>tut</O> it's really bizarre because you make so
      many judgements without really knowing who people are

  <WSC#DPC253:0820:AB>
      like um <O>tut</O> it's just this week when i've been fighting
      with andrea i've just been getting on SO well with my room mate
      cos she's <.>o</.> she <&>7:00</&> only moved in after the half
      term

  <WSC#DPC253:0825:AB>
      and she is the loveliest person and she's been telling me about
      her family

  <WSC#DPC253:0830:AB>
      and um her parents got married because her mother was pregnant
      and her older elder sister has spina bifida

  <WSC#DPC253:0835:VL>
      mm <latch> and um so <.>she's</.> <O>tut</O> has a lot of
      problems getting around and things

  <WSC#DPC253:0840:AB>
      and the next one had <.>a</.> major problems with drugs and she
      spent a lot of time in psychiatric wards and things and she now
      has a three year old child <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0845:VL>
      <laughs>oh <{><[>god</laughs></[>

  <WSC#DPC253:0850:AB>
      <[>who</[></{> she has real trouble coping with because she
      thinks she's turned all to sick the little girl cos her mother
      just doesn't know what to do with her

  <WSC#DPC253:0855:AB>
      and then jacinta moved out when she was sixteen i think cos she
      used to fight with her father <O>tut</O>

  <WSC#DPC253:0860:AB>
      and now the youngest daughter's kind of gone off the rails a bit

  <WSC#DPC253:0865:AB>
      so it's <{><[>it's <unclear>word</unclear></[>

  <WSC#DPC253:0870:VL>
      <[>she would be the</[></{> only normal one in the <{><[>family</[>

  <WSC#DPC253:0875:AB>
      <[>yeah</[></{> yeah it's really interesting <{1><[1>though</[1>
      finding out about people

  <WSC#DPC253:0880:AB>
      because i think that um you know you can just make judgements
      that <{2><[2>oh</[2> such and such is a real cow but you just
      don't know why

  <WSC#DPC253:0885:VL>
      <[1><O>coughs</O></[1></{1>

  <WSC#DPC253:0890:VL>
      <[2>were <.>you</.></[2></{2>

  <WSC#DPC253:0895:VL>
      you meet so many people <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0900:AB>
      mm

  <WSC#DPC253:0905:VL>
      like that's it you

  <WSC#DPC253:0910:VL>
      just <.>meet</.> meeting people <&>8:00</&> constantly <{1><[1>all
      the time</[1>

  <WSC#DPC253:0915:VL>
      you don't really often have time

  <WSC#DPC253:0920:VL>
      you miss <{2><[2>things</[2>

  <WSC#DPC253:0925:AB>
      <[1>mm mm</[1></{1>

  <WSC#DPC253:0930:AB>
      <[2>mm</[2></{2> yeah

  <WSC#DPC253:0935:AB>
      and also when they make little hints you know

  <WSC#DPC253:0940:AB>
      you often don't pick them up about people i think

  <WSC#DPC253:0945:VL>
      yeah

  <WSC#DPC253:0950:AB>
      and particularly when people are depressed and things

  <WSC#DPC253:0955:AB>
      they they often feel like there's just no one around that really
      knows you

  <WSC#DPC253:0960:VL>
      that was the thing is that like <.>when</.> when i first came
      down to wellington i knew not a soul <{><[>in</[> the world in
      wellington and um it <.>was</.> it was like for a while you
      could be separate from what you had been <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0965:AB>
      <[>mm</[></{>

  <WSC#DPC253:0970:AB>
      mm <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0975:VL>
      and things about yourself <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0980:AB>
      mm <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0985:VL>
      you <.>y</.> lots of people do it

  <WSC#DPC253:0990:VL>
      when you first came everyone got on so well because everyone
      tried so hard <latch>

  <WSC#DPC253:0995:AB>
      mm <latch> to change the things about themselves that they saw
      <{1><[1>as</[1> not working

  <WSC#DPC253:1000:VL>
      and then sort of about halfway through the year it <.>s</.> it
      started to be that you couldn't cope because you you can't
      pretend for that amount of time

  <WSC#DPC253:1005:VL>
      you can't you just can't sort of continue on with that whole um
      being super people

  <WSC#DPC253:1010:VL>
      i mean basically everyone by the end of the year couldn't cope
      because <&>9:00</&> they'd they'd tried too hard <{2><[2>to be</[2>

  <WSC#DPC253:1015:AB>
      <[1>mm</[1></{1>

  <WSC#DPC253:1020:AB>
      <[2>mm</[2></{2> <O>tut</O> i think that's where i was quite
      <{1><[1>stubborn</[1>

  <WSC#DPC253:1025:AB>
      and i think i've never made a big effort to hang around with
      groups and you know <{2><[2>get in</[2> and talk <.>to</.> and
      sit in people's rooms and just talk to people for no reason at
      all

  <WSC#DPC253:1030:AB>
      and i think that a lot of people that really did that and got
      really groupy and happy are now running into the most incredible
      problems cos they're just getting so sick of each other and <{3><[3>the</[3>
      little backstabbing bits and people er running in and out of
      each other's pockets and <[1><O>coughs</O></[1></{1>

  <WSC#DPC253:1035:VL>
      <[2>yeah</[2></{2>

  <WSC#DPC253:1040:VL>
      <[3>yeah</[3></{3>

  <WSC#DPC253:1045:VL>
      they're not independent <{><[>enough</[>

  <WSC#DPC253:1050:AB>
      <[>no</[></{> i don't think so

  <WSC#DPC253:1055:AB>
      that's why i've really been enjoying kind of lately because um
      i've got my job and all the people that you meet there
      <&>9:36</&>
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