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THE MYSTERIOUSNESS AND DUTIES OF MARRIAGE (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,1.3)

PART I . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,1.4)

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The first Blessing God gave to man , was Society : (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,1.7)

and that society was a Marriage , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,1.8)

and that marriage was confederate by God himself , and hallowed by a
blessing : (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,1.9)

and at the same time , and for very many descending ages , not only by
the instinct of Nature , but by a superadded forwardness <paren> God
himself inspiring the desire </paren> the world was most desirous of
Children , impatient of Barrenness , accounting single life a Curse ,
and a childless person hated by God . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,1.10)

The world was rich and empty , and able to provide for a more numerous
posterity than it had . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,1.11)

{COM:greek_omitted} You that are rich <font> Numenius </font> , you may
multiply your family ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,1.12)

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poor men are not so fond of Children , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,2.14)

but when a family could drive their Herds , and set their children upon
Camels , and lead them till they saw a fat Soil watered with Rivers ,
and there sit down without paying rent , they thought of nothing but to
have great Families , that their own relations might swell up to a
Patriarchate , and their children be enough to possess all the Regions
that they saw , and their grand-children become Princes , and
themselves build Cities and call them by the name of a Child , and
become the fountain of a Nation . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,2.15)

This was the consequent of the first blessing , <font> Increase and
multiply </font> . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,2.16)

The next blessing was , <font> the promise of the Messias , </font>
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,2.17)

and that also increased in men and women a wonderful desire of marriage
: (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,2.18)

for as soon as God had chosen the family of <font> Abraham </font> to
be the blessed line , from whence the worlds Redeemer should descend
according to the flesh , every of his Daughters hoped to have the
honour to be his Mother , or his Grand-mother , or something of his
Kindred : (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,2.19)

and to be childless in <font> Israel </font> was a sorrow to the <font>
Hebrew </font> women great as the slavery of <font> Egypt </font> , or
their dishonours in the land of their Captivity . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,2.20)

But when the Messias was come , and the Doctrine was published , and
his Ministers but few , and his Disciples were to suffer persecution ,
and to be of an unsetled dwelling , and the Nation of the <font> Jews
</font> , in the bosome and society of which the Church especially did
dwell , were to be scattered and broken all in pieces , with fierce
calamities , and the world was apt to calumniate and to suspect and
dishonour Christians upon pretences and unreasonable jealousies , and
that to all these purposes the state of marriage brought many
inconveniencies ; it pleased God in this new Creation to inspire into
the Hearts of his servants a Disposition and strong Desires to live a
single Life , lest the state of marriage should in that <P_3>
conjunction of things become an accidental Impediment to the
dissemination of the Gospel , which call'd men from a confinement in
their domestick charges to Travel , and Flight , and Poverty , and
Difficulty , and Martyrdom : (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,3.21)

upon this necessity the Apostles and Apostolical men published
Doctrines , declaring the advantages of single life , not by any
commandment of the Lord , but by the spirit of Prudence ,
{COM:greek_omitted} , for the present and then incumbent necessities ,
and in order to the advantages which did accrew to the publick
Ministeries and private Piety . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,3.22)

There are some <paren> said our Blessed Lord </paren> who make
themselves Eunuchs for the Kingdom of Heaven , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,3.23)

that is , for the advantages and the ministry of the Gospel , <font>
non ad vitae bonae meritum </font> <paren> as S. <font> Austin </font>
in the like case </paren> not that it is a better service of God in
itself , but that it is useful to the first circumstances of the Gospel
and the infancy of the Kingdom , because the unmarried person
{COM:greek_omitted} , is apt to spiritual and Ecclesiastical
imployments : (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,3.24)

first {COM:greek_omitted} , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,3.25)

and then {COM:greek_omitted} , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,3.26)

holy in his own person , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,3.27)

and then sanctified to publick Ministeries ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,3.28)

and it was also of ease to the Christians themselves , because as then
it was , when they were to flee , and to flee for ought they knew , in
Winter , and they were persecuted to the four winds of Heaven ; and the
nurses and the women with child were to suffer a heavier load of sorrow
because of the imminent persecutions ; and above all , because of the
great fatality of ruine upon the whole nation of the Jews , well it
might be said by S. <font> Paul </font> {COM:greek_omitted} , <font>
Such shall have trouble in the flesh , </font> (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,3.29)

that is , they that are married shall , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,3.30)

and so <font> at that time </font> they had : (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,3.31)

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and therefore it was an act of charity to the Christians to give that
counsel , {COM:greek_omitted} , <font> I do this to spare you , </font>
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,4.33)

and {COM:greek_omitted} : (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,4.34)

for when the case was alter'd , and that storm was over , and the first
necessities of the Gospel served , and <font> the sound was gone out
into all nations ; </font> in very many persons it was wholly changed ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,4.35)

and not the married but the unmarried had {COM:greek_omitted} trouble
in the flesh ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,4.36)

and the state of marriage returned to its first blessing ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,4.37)

<font> & non erat bonum homini esse solitarium </font> ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,4.38)

and it was not good for man to be alone . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,4.39)

But in this first interval , the publick Necessity and the private Zeal
mingling together did sometimes over-act their love of single Life ,
even to the disparagement of Marriage , and to the scandal of Religion
; which was increased by the occasion of some pious persons renouncing
their contract of marriage , not consummate , with unbelievers .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,4.40)

For when <font> Flavia Domitilla </font> being converted by <font>
Nereus </font> and <font> Achilleus </font> the Eunuchs , refused to
marry <font> Aurelianus </font> to whom she was contracted ; if there
were not some little envy and too sharp hostility in the Eunuchs to a
married state , yet <font> Aurelianus </font> thought himself an
injur'd person , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,4.41)

and caus'd S. <font> Clemens </font> who vail'd her and his spouse both
to die in the quarrel . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,4.42)

St. <font> Thecla </font> being converted by St. <font> Paul </font>
grew so in love with Virginity , that she leaped back from the marriage
of <font> Tamyris </font> , where she was lately ingaged .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,4.43)

S. <font> Iphigenia </font> denied to marry King <font> Hirtacus
</font> , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,4.44)

and it is said to be done by the advice of St. <font> Matthew </font> .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,4.45)

And <font> Susanna </font> the Niece of <font> Diocletian </font>
refus'd the love of <font> Maximianus </font> the Emperor ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,4.46)

and these all had been betrothed ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,4.47)

and so did St. <font> Agnes </font> , and St. <font> Felicula </font> ,
and divers others then and afterwards ; insomuch , that it was reported
among the Gentiles , that the Christians did not only hate all that
were not of their perswasion , but were Enemies of the <P_5> chast Laws
of Marriage ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,5.48)

And indeed some that were called Christians were so ; <font> forbidding
to marry , and commanding to abstain from meats . </font>
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,5.49)

Upon this occasion it grew necessary for the Apostle to state the
Question right , and to do honour to the holy Rite of Marriage , and to
snatch the Mystery from the hands of zeal and folly , and to place it
in Christs right hand , that all its beauties might appear , and a
present convenience might not bring in a false Doctrine , and a
perpetual Sin , and an intolerable Mischief . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,5.50)

The Apostle therefore who himself had been a Married man , but was now
a Widower , does explicate the mysteriousness of it ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,5.51)

and describes its honours , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,5.52)

and adorns it with rules and provision of Religion , that as it begins
with Honour , so it may proceed with Piety , and end with Glory .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,5.53)

{COM:greek_omitted} For although single life hath in it privacy and
simplicity of affairs , such solitariness and sorrow , such leisure and
unactive circumstances of living , that there are more spaces for
religion if men would use them to these purposes ; and because it may
have in it much Religion and Prayers , and must have in it a perfect
Mortification of our strongest appetites , it is therefore a state of
great excellency ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,5.54)

yet concerning the state of Marriage we are taught from Scripture and
the Sayings of wise men great things and honourable .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,5.55)

<font> Marriage is honourable in all men , </font>
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,5.56)

so is not single life ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,5.57)

for in some it is a snare and {COM:greek_omitted} , <font> A trouble in
the flesh , </font> a prison of unruly desires which is attempted daily
to be broken . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,5.58)

Celibate or single life is never commanded ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,5.59)

but in some cases marriage is ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,5.60)

and he that burns , sins often if he marries not ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,5.61)

he that $can $not {TEXT:cannot} contain must marry ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,5.62)

and he that can contain is not tied to a single <P_6> life ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.63)

but may marry and not sin . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.64)

Marriage was ordained by God , instituted in Paradise ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.65)

was the relief of a natural Necessity , and the first blessing from the
Lord ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.66)

he gave to Man not a Friend , but a Wife , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.67)

that is a Friend and a Wife too : (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.68)

<paren> for a good woman is in her soul the same that a man is ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.69)

and she is a woman only in her body ; that she may have the excellency
of the one , and the usefulness of the other , and become amiable in
both ; </paren> (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.70)

it is the seminary of the Church , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.71)

and daily brings forth sons and daughters unto God ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.72)

it was ministred to by Angels , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.73)

and <font> Raphael </font> waited upon a young man that he might have a
blessed Marriage , and that that marriage might repair two sad Families
, and bless all their Relatives . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.74)

Our blessed Lord , though he was born of a Maiden , yet she was vail'd
under the cover of marriage , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.75)

and she was married to a Widower ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.76)

for <font> Joseph </font> the supposed Father of our Lord had children
by a former wife . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.77)

The first Miracle that ever <font> Jesus </font> did , was to do honour
to a wedding ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.78)

Marriage was in the world before sin , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.79)

and is in all ages of the world the greatest and most effective
Antidote against sin , in which all the world had perished , if God had
not made a remedy ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.80)

and although Sin hath sour'd marriage , and struck the mans head with
Cares , and the womans bed with Sorrows in the production of children ;
yet these are but throws of Life and Glory , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.81)

and <font> she shall be saved in child-bearing , if she be found in
faith and righteousness . </font> (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.82)

Marriage is a School and Exercise of vertue ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.83)

and though <font> Marriage </font> hath <font> cares , </font> yet
<font> the single life </font> hath <font> desires , </font> which are
more troublesome and more dangerous , and often end in sin , while the
cares are but instances of Duty and exercises of Piety :
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.84)

and therefore if single Life hath more privacy of Devotion , yet
marriage hath more Necessities and more Variety of it ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.85)

and is an exercise of more Graces . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,6.86)

In two virtues , <font> celibate </font> or single life may have the
advantage of <P_7> degrees ordinarily and commonly ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.87)

that is , in <font> chastity </font> and <font> devotion : </font>
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.88)

but as in some persons this may fail , and it does in very many , and a
married man may spend as much time in devotion as any Virgins or Widows
do ; yet as in marriage even those virtues of chastity and devotion are
exercised : so in other instances , this state hath proper exercises
and trials for those graces , for which single life can never be
crown'd ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.89)

Here is the proper scene of Piety and Patience , of the duty of Parents
and the charity of Relatives ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.90)

here Kindness is spread abroad , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.91)

and Love is united and made firm as a center : (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.92)

Marriage is the nursery of Heaven ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.93)

the Virgin sends prayers to God , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.94)

but she carries but one Soul to him ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.95)

but the state of marriage fills up the numbers of the Elect ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.96)

and hath in it the labour of Love , and the delicacies of Friendship ,
the blessing of Society , and the union of Hands and Hearts ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.97)

it hath in it less of beauty , but more of safety than the single life
; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.98)

it hath more care , but less danger ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.99)

it is more merry , and more sad ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.100)

is fuller of sorrows , and fuller of joys ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.101)

it lies under more burdens , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.102)

but is supported by all the strengths of love and charity ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.103)

and those burdens are delightful . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.104)

Marriage is the mother of the world , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.105)

and preserves Kingdoms , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.106)

and fills Cities , and Churches , and Heaven itself .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.107)

Celibate , like the Flie in the Heart of an apple , dwells in a
perpetual sweetness , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.108)

but sits alone , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.109)

and is confin'd and dies in Singularity ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.110)

but Marriage , like the useful Bee , builds a house
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.111)

and gathers sweetness from every flower , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.112)

and labours and unites into Societies and Republicks ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.113)

and sends out Colonies , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.114)

and feeds the World with delicacies , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.115)

and obeys their King , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.116)

and keeps order , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.117)

and exercises many Vertues , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,7.118)

and promotes <P_8> the Interest of mankind , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,8.119)

and is that state of good things to which God hath designed the present
constitution of the world . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,8.120)

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3 . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,28.124)

Hither also is to be referred that he secure the Interest of her Vertue
and Felicity by a fair Example ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,28.125)

for a Wife to a Husband is a Line of Superficies ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,28.126)

it hath Dimensions of its <P_29> own , but no Motion or proper
affections ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,29.127)

but commonly puts on such images of virtues or vices as are presented
to her by her Husband's Idea : (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,29.128)

and if thou beest vicious , <font> complain not that she is infected
that lies in thy bosom ; </font> the interest of whose love ties her to
transcribe thy Copy , and write after the Characters of thy manners .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,29.129)

<font> Paris </font> was a man of Pleasure , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,29.130)

and <font> Helena </font> was an Adulteress , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,29.131)

and she added Covetousness upon her own account .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,29.132)

But <font> Ulysses </font> was a prudent man , and a wary counselor ,
sober and severe ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,29.133)

and he efformed his Wife into such imagery as he desir'd ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,29.134)

and she was Chast as the Snows upon the mountains , Diligent as the
fatal Sisters , always Busie , and always Faithful ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,29.135)

{COM:greek_omitted} , she had a lazy tongue , and a busie hand .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,29.136)

4 . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,29.137)

Above all the instances of Love , let him preserve towards her an
inviolable Faith , and an unspotted Chastity , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,29.138)

for this is <font> the Marriage Ring , </font> (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,29.139)

it ties two hearts by an eternal band ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,29.140)

it is like the Cherubims flaming sword , set for the guard of Paradise
; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,29.141)

he that passes into that garden , now that it is immur'd by Christ and
the Church , enters into the shades of death . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,29.142)

No man must touch the forbidden Tree , that in the midst of the garden
, which is the tree of Knowledge and Life . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,29.143)

Chastity is the security of Love , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,29.144)

and preserves all the Mysteriousness like the secrets of a Temple .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,29.145)

Under this Lock is deposited security of Families , the union of
Affections , the repairer of accidental Breaches .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,29.146)

{COM:greek_omitted} This is a Grace that is shut up and secur'd by all
arts of Heaven , and the defence of Laws , the locks and bars of
Modesty , by honour and reputation , by fear and shame , by interest
and high regards , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,29.147)

and that contract that is intended <P_30> to be for ever , is yet
dissolved , and broken by the violation of this ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,30.148)

nothing but Death can do so much Evil to the holy rites of Marriage ,
as Unchastity and breach of Faith can . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,30.149)

The shepherd <font> Cratis </font> falling in love with a She-goat ,
had his brains beaten out with a Buck as he lay asleep ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,30.150)

and by the Laws of the <font> Romans , </font> a man might kill his
Daughter , or his Wife , if he surprised her in the breach of her holy
Vows , which are as sacred as the threads of Life , secret as the
privacies of the Sanctuary , and holy as the society of Angels .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,30.151)

<font> Nullae sunt inimicitiae nisi amoris acerbae , </font>
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,30.152)

and God that commanded us to forgive our Enemies , left it in our
choice , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,30.153)

and hath not commanded us to forgive an adulterous Husband or a Wife ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,30.154)

but the offended partie's Displeasure may pass into an eternal
Separation of Society and friendship . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,30.155)

Now in this Grace it is fit that the Wisdom and severity of the man
should hold forth a pure Taper , that his Wife may , by seeing the
beauties and transparency of that Crystal , dress her mind and her body
by the light of so pure reflexions ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,30.156)

It is certain he will expect it from the modesty and retirement , from
the passive nature and colder temper , from the humility and fear ,
from the honour and love of his Wife , that she be pure as the Eye of
Heaven : (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,30.157)

and therefore it is best reason that the wisdom and nobleness , the
love and confidence , the strength and severity of the man should be as
holy and certain in this grace , as he is a severe exactor of it at her
hands , <font> who can more easily be tempted by another , and less by
her self . </font> (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,30.158)

These are the little Lines of <font> a mans Duty , </font> which like
threads of Light from the body of the Sun do clearly describe all the
regions of his proper Obligations . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,30.159)

Now concerning <font> the womans duty , </font> although it consists in
doing whatsoever her Husband commands , and so receives Measures from
the rules of his Government , yet there are also some lines of life
<P_31> depicted upon her hands , by which she may read and know how to
proportion out her duty to her Husband . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,31.160)

1 . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,31.161)

The first is <font> Obedience ; </font> which because it is nowhere
enjoyned that the man should exact of her , but often commanded to her
to pay , gives demonstration that it is a voluntary Cession that is
required , such a Cession as must be without <font> coercion </font>
and <font> violence </font> on his part , but upon <font> fair
inducements , </font> and <font> reasonableness in the thing , </font>
and out of <font> love , </font> and <font> honour </font> on her part
. (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,31.162)

When God commands us to love him , he means we should obey him ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,31.163)

<font> This is love that ye keep my Commandments </font> ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,31.164)

and , <font> If ye love me </font> <paren> said our Lord </paren>
<font> keep my Commandments : </font> (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,31.165)

Now as Christ is to the Church , so is Man to the Wife :
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,31.166)

and therefore <font> obedience </font> is the best instance of her Love
; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,31.167)

for it proclaims her Submission , her Humility , her Opinion of his
wisdom , his preeminence in the family , the Right of his priviledge ,
and the Injunction imposed by God upon her Sex , that although <font>
in sorrow she bring forth children , </font> yet with <font> love and
choice she should obey . </font> (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,31.168)

The <font> mans authority is love , </font> (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,31.169)

and <font> the womans love is obedience ; </font>
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,31.170)

and it was not rightly observed of him that said , when the woman fell
, God made her timorous that she might be rul'd , apt and easie to obey
; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,31.171)

for this obedience is no way founded in fear , but in love and
reverence . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,31.172)

<font> Receptae reverentiae est , si mulier viro subsit , </font> said
the Law ; unless also that we will add , that it is an effect of that
Modesty which like Rubies adorn the necks and cheeks of Women .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,31.173)

<font> Pudicitia est , pater , eos magnificare , qui nos socias
sumpserunt sibi , </font> said the Maiden in the Comedy :
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,31.174)

It is modesty to advance and highly to honour them , who have honoured
us by making us to be the companions of their dearest excellencies ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,31.175)

for the Woman that went before the man in the way of Death , is
commanded to follow him in the way of Love ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,31.176)

and that makes the Society <P_32> to be perfect , and the Union
profitable , and the Harmony compleat . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,32.177)

Inferior Matrona suo sit , Sexte , Marito ; Non aliter fiunt foemina
virque pares . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,32.178)

For then the Soul and Body make a perfect Man , when the Soul commands
wisely , or rules lovingly , and cares profitably , and provides
plentifully , and conducts charitably that Body which is its partner
and yet the inferior . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,32.179)

But if the Body shall give Laws , and by the violence of the appetite ,
first abuse the Understanding , and then possess the superior portion
of the Will and Choice , the body and the soul are not apt company ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,32.180)

and the man is a fool and miserable . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,32.181)

If the Soul rules not , it $can $not {TEXT:cannot} be a Companion ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,32.182)

either it must govern , or be a slave ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,32.183)

Never was King deposed and suffered to live in the state of Peerage and
equal Honour , but made a Prisoner , or put to death ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,32.184)

and those women , that had rather lead the blind than follow prudent
guides , rule fools and easie men than obey the powerful and wise ,
never made a good society in a house : (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,32.185)

a wife never can become equal but by obeying ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,32.186)

but so her power while it is in minority , makes up the authority of
the man integral , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,32.187)

and becomes one government , as themselves are one man .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,32.188)

<font> Male and Female created he them , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,32.189)

and called their name Adam , </font> saith the holy Scripture ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,32.190)

they are but One : (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,32.191)

and therefore the several parts of this one man must stand in the place
where God appointed , that the lower parts may do their offices in
their own station , and promote the common interest of the whole .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,32.192)

A ruling Woman is intolerable ... Faciunt graviora coactae Imperios
sexus ... (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,32.193)

<P_33>

But that 's not all ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,33.195)

for she is miserable too : (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,33.196)

for , It is a sad calamity for a Woman to be joined to a Fool or a weak
person ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,33.197)

it is like a guard of Geese to keep the Capitol , or as if a flock of
Sheep should read grave Lectures to their Shepherd , and give him
orders where he shall conduct them to pasture . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,33.198)

<font> O vere` Phrygiae , neque enim Phryges , </font>
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,33.199)

It is a curse that God threatned sinning persons <font> Devoratum est
robur eorum , facti sunt quasi mulieres . Effoeminati dominabuntur eis
. </font> (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,33.200)

To be ruled by weaker people ; {COM:greek_omitted} , to have a fool to
ones Master , is the fate of miserable and unblessed people :
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,33.201)

and the Wife can be no ways Happy , unless she be governed by a prudent
Lord , whose Commands are sober counsels , whose Authority is paternal
, whose Orders are provisions , and whose Sentences are charity .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,33.202)

But now concerning the Measures and Limits of this Obedience , we can
best take accounts from Scripture : (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,33.203)

{COM:greek_omitted} , saith the Apostle , <font> in all things ; ut
Domino , as to the Lord ; </font> (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,33.204)

and that 's large enough ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,33.205)

as unto a Lord , <font> ut Ancilla Domino , </font>
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,33.206)

So S. <font> Hierome </font> understands it , who neither-3 was a
friend to the sex nor to marriage ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,33.207)

But his mistake is soon confuted by the Text ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,33.208)

It is not <font> ut Dominis </font> , be subject to your Husbands as
unto Lords , but {COM:greek_omitted} , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,33.209)

that is , in all religion , in reverence and in love , in duty and zeal
, in faith and knowledge ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,33.210)

or else {COM:greek_omitted} may signifie , Wives be subject to your
Husbands , but yet so , that at the same time ye be subject to the Lord
. (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,33.211)

For that 's the measure of {COM:greek_omitted} , <font> in all things ;
</font> (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,33.212)

and it is more plain in the parallel place , {COM:greek_omitted} ,
<font> as it is fit in the Lord ; </font> (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,33.213)

Religion must be the Measure of your obedience and subjection : <font>
intra limites <P_34> disciplinae , </font> so <font> Tertullian </font>
expresses it , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,34.214)

{COM:greek_omitted} , so <font> Clemens Alex . </font>
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,34.215)

In all things let the Wife be subject to the Husband , so as to do
nothing against his will ; those only things excepted , in which he is
impious or refractory in things pertaining to wisdom and piety .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,34.216)

But in this also there is some peculiar Caution .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,34.217)

For although in those things which are of the necessary parts of faith
and holy life , the Woman is only subject to Christ , who only is and
can be Lord of consciences , and commands alone where the conscience is
instructed and convinced ; yet as it is part of the mans office to be a
Teacher , and a Prophet , and a Guide , and a Master ; so also it will
relate very much to the demonstration of their affections to obey his
Counsels , to imitate his Vertues , to be directed by his Wisdom , to
have her Perswasion measured by the lines of his excellent Religion ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,34.218)

{COM:greek_omitted} ,

It were hugely decent <paren> saith <font> Plutarch </font> that the
Wife should acknowledge her Husband for her teacher and her guide ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,34.220)

for then when she is what he please to efform her , he hath no cause to
complain if she be no better : (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,34.221)

his precept and wise counsels can draw her off from vanities ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,34.222)

and , as he said of Geometry , that if she be skill'd in that , she
will not easily be a Gamester or a Dancer , may perfectly be said of
Religion . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,34.223)

If she suffer her self to be guided by his Counsel , and efformed by
his Religion ; either he is an ill Master in his Religion ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,34.224)

or he may secure in her and for his advantage an excellent Vertue .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,34.225)

And although in matters of Religion the Husband hath no Empire and
Command , yet if <P_35> there be a place left to perswade , and intreat
, and induce by arguments , there is not in a family a greater
Endearment of Affections than the Unity of Religion :
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,35.226)

and anciently it was not permitted to a Woman to have a Religion by her
self . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,35.227)

<font> Eosdem quos maritus nosse Deos & colere solos uxor debet ,
</font> <paren> said <font> Plutarch </font> . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,35.228)

And the rites which a woman performs severally from her Husband are not
pleasing to God ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,35.229)

and therefore <font> Pomponia Graecina , </font> because she
entertain'd a stranger Religion , was permitted to the judgment of her
Husband <font> Plautius : </font> (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,35.230)

And this whole affair is no stranger to Christianity ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,35.231)

for the Christian woman was not suffered to marry an Unbelieving man ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,35.232)

and although this is not to be extended to different Opinions within
the limits of the common Faith : yet thus much advantage is wone or
lost by it ; that the compliance of the Wife , and submission of her
understanding to the better rule of her Husband in matters of Religion
, will help very much to warrant her , though she should be
misperswaded in a matter less necessary ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,35.233)

yet nothing can warrant her in her separate rites and manners of
worshippings , but an invincible necessity of Conscience , and a
curious infallible Truth ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,35.234)

and if she be deceived alone , she hath no Excuse ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,35.235)

if with him , she hath much Pity , and some degrees of Warranty under
the protection of humility , and duty , and dear affections ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,35.236)

and she will find that it is part of her Priviledge and Right to
partake of the mysteries and blessings of her Husband's Religion .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,35.237)

A Woman by the Holy Laws hath right to partake of her Husbands Goods ,
and her Husbands Sacrifices , and holy things . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,35.238)

Where there is a Schism in one Bed , there is a Nursery of temptations
, (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,35.239)

and Love is persecuted and in perpetual danger <P_36> to be destroyed ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,36.240)

there dwell Jealousies , and divided Interest , and differing Opinions
, and continual Disputes , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,36.241)

and we $can $not {TEXT:cannot} love them so well , whom we believe to
be less beloved of God ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,36.242)

and it is ill uniting with a person , concerning whom my perswasion
tells me , that he is like to live in Hell to eternal ages .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,36.243)

2 . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,36.244)

The next line of the womans duty is <font> compliance </font> which S.
<font> Peter </font> calls , <font> the hidden man of the heart , the
ornament of a meek and a quiet spirit , </font> (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,36.245)

and to it he opposes <font> the outward and pompous ornament of the
body ; </font> concerning which as there can be no particular Measure
set down to all persons , but the proportions were to be measured by
the customs of wise People , the quality of the Woman , and the desires
of the Man ; yet it is to be limited by Christian Modesty , and the
usages of the more excellent and severe Matrons .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,36.246)

<font> Menander </font> in the Comedy brings in a man turning his Wife
from his house because she stain'd her hair yellow , which was then the
beauty . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,36.247)

A wise Woman should not paint . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,36.248)

A studious gallantry in Clothes $can $not {TEXT:cannot} make a wise Man
love his Wife the better . {COM:greek_omitted} , said the Comedy ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,36.249)

such gaieties are fit for Tragedies , but not for the uses of Life :
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,36.250)

<font> Decor occultus , & tecta venustas , </font>
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,36.251)

that 's the Christian Womans Fineness , <font> the hidden man of the
heart , </font> Sweetness of manners , humble Comportment , fair
Interpretation of all addresses , ready Compliances , high Opinion of
him , and mean of her self . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,36.252)

{COM:greek_omitted} , To partake <P_37> secretly , and in her heart of
all his joys and sorrows , to believe him comely and fair , though the
Sun hath drawn a Cypress over him , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,37.253)

<paren> for as marriages are not to be contracted by the hands and eye
, but with reason and the hearts : so are these judgments to be made by
the mind , not by the sight : </paren> (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,37.254)

and Diamonds $can $not {TEXT:cannot} make the Woman vertuous , nor him
to value her who sees her put them off then , when Charity and Modesty
are her brightest Ornaments . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,37.255)

{COM:greek_omitted}

And indeed those Husbands that are pleased with undecent Gaieties of
their Wives , are like Fishes taken with Ointments and intoxicating
Baits , apt and easie for sport and mockery , but useless for food ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,37.257)

and when <font> Circe </font> had turned <font> Ulysses </font> s
Companions into Hogs and Monkies , by pleasures and the inchantments of
her bravery and luxury , they were no longer useful to her ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,37.258)

she knew not what to do with them ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,37.259)

but on wise <font> Ulysses </font> she was continaully enamour'd .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,37.260)

Indeed the outward ornament is fit to take Fools ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,37.261)

but they are not worth the taking ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,37.262)

but she that hath a wise Husband , must entice him to an eternal
Dearness by the vail of Modesty , and the grave Robes of Chastity , the
ornament of Meekness , and the jewels of Faith and Charity ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,37.263)

she must have no <font> fucus </font> but blushings ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,37.264)

her brightness must be Purity , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,37.265)

and she must shine round about with sweetnesses and Friendship ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,37.266)

and she shall be pleasant while she lives , and desired when she dies .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,37.267)

If not , {COM:greek_omitted} , Her Grave shall be full of Rottenness
and Dishonour , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,37.268)

and her Memory shall be worse after she is dead : <font> after she is
dead : </font> (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,37.269)

<P_38>

For that will be the End of all merry Meetings ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,38.271)

and I chuse this to be the last Advice to both .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,38.272)

3 . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,38.273)

<font> Remember the days of darkness , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,38.274)

for they are many : </font> (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,38.275)

The joys of the bridal chambers are quickly past ,
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,38.276)

and the remaining portion of the state is a dull progress without
variety of joys but not without the change of sorrows ;
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,38.277)

but that portion that shall enter into the grave must be eternal .
(JETAYLOR-E3-P1,38.278)

It is fit that I should infuse a bunch of Myrrhe into the festival
Goblet , and after the Egyptian manner serve up a dead man's Bones at a
Feast ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,38.279)

I will only shew it , and take it away again ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,38.280)

it will make the Wine bitter , but wholsome . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,38.281)

But those married Pairs that Live , as remembring that they must Part
again , and give an Account how they treat themselves and each other ,
shall at that day of their Death be admitted to glorious Espousals ;
and when they shall live again , be married to their Lord , and partake
of his Glories , with <font> Abraham </font> and <font> Joseph ,
</font> S. <font> Peter </font> and S. <font> Paul , </font> , and all
the married Saints . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,38.282)

All those things that now please us shall pass from us , or we from
them ; (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,38.283)

but those things that concern the other life , are permanent as the
numbers of eternity : (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,38.284)

and although at the Resurrection there shall be no relation of Husband
and Wife , and no Marriage shall be celebrated but the marriage of the
Lamb ; yet then shall be remembred how Men and Women pass'd through
this state which is a Type of that , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,38.285)

and from this sacramental Union all holy pairs shall pass to the
spritual and eternal , where Love shall be their Portion , and Joys
shall crown their Heads , (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,38.286)

and they shall lie in the bosome of Jesus , and in the heart of God to
eternal Ages . (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,38.287)

<font> Amen . </font> (JETAYLOR-E3-P1,38.288)